Young and virile.

After having a few confused weeks, I've finally found out that I really want to date.  Not exclusively of course, but definitely just date around.  I don't want to tie myself down to someone like I have in the past.  I've always been one to rush a commitment and then feel trapped because I pass up really good emotional opportunities because of monogamy.  Recently, something clicked in my mind.  After talking to a friend for a while who began to have romantic interests in me and I with him, and dealing through those to being really good friends, he made me realize the aforementioned.  Anyway, so I was introduced about a week ago to a friend's friend.  His name is Kevin.  He's 19, very attractive, funny, spastic, a skater, a student at the Art Institute, basically totally interesting and awesome.  He was kind enough to be a model for me for my photography class (the pictures look amazing by the way).  Anyway, after talking to him a few times, I realize I really like him.  I think it would be fun to have a nice little fling with him.  Not some heavy handed committed thing, but a more relaxed relationship.  And it would be amazing because it would be my first close-distance relationship in about 4 years.  The only thing is... I'm extremely agressive.  When I want something, I go after it, and it scares a lot of men off.  So then I try and back off and be coy and all that bullshit, but I just come off feeling like a dork.  I don't really know what to do, but the whole thing is just starting out.  We'll see where it goes.  Hopefully he's not all weirded by me. *crosses fingers*  But I dunno... I feel so much different now, like a big pressure has been lifted off.  I think I could really have fun with this guy.
TheJoeD on
Always put out on the first date, that will earn you his respect.
Cavutto on

LOL @ Joe.  That is so true. 

Interesting story from this weekend that doesn't quite merit its own post.  Some random girl at the bar this weekend tried to pick me up.  It was really funny how it all played out though.  I was about halfway to my bar limit and I was playing pool.  This girl at the bar asked me what kind of shot I like and I halfway jokingly said 'Tequilla'.  So she bought me a shot and I continued to play pool.  Like 15 minutes later she waves me over to where she was and, lo and behold, another shot.  My friend Shelby was sitting in the vicinity and she must have assumed that I knew this girl.  Shelb asks why she's buying me all these shots and the girl tells her that she's trying to get me 'sauced' and the plan was to get me to take her home.  Shelb told her that it would probably take a lot more shots than she could afford.  It was a nice try though.  Shelby rules.

LadyGrace on
Oh, no... I'm not desperate, just aggressive.  :P  It's more like I'll play with his hair and what not.  Just stupid little things like that.

And Joe, you're not one to talk about respect (kidding).
TheJoeD on
Lastexit29 on
ryan...did this chick want to get you wasted and have you drive her home...sounds like a death wish :)

ladygrace:  that's cool that you met someone...i'd say be agressive (well, be yourself)...
LadyGrace on
I dunno... I guess that I have to ask the guys then.  How do you feel if someone where agressive?  Not like... TAKE ME DOWN WHORE!  But like... *tickle* or *play with hair* stuff like that?  Does it make you feel like a deer running from a hunter?
TheJoeD on
Personally...I don't like aggressive, it's kind of a turn off for me. I like a girl that shows interest, but leaves it kind of ambiguous, leaning more towards flirty.
phoenix on
This is all very interesting.   I like hearing the male perspective on women being aggressive vs. flirty vs. coy etc. 
LadyGrace on
I dunno... I would say I flirt.  I'm not like... GET NAKED. I just say I flirt pretty aggressively.  It's not like I pull guy's shirts off (although I did the second time I met Kevin, but it's because he was my model and it was totally professional).  It's just flirting.  Playful touching and stuff, nothing really like... *GRAB ASS.*  I think chicks like that are... really slutty.
AndrewK on
I like girls who flirt, who are aggressive, who are quiet, who scream half their sentences without knowing it...it doesn't really matter. They need to want to explore, minds, land, literature, whatever, that's my main requirement. That, or a lot of alcohol.
xzx on
hm...i'd consider myself wicked aggressive when it comes to stuff like that... if im with a guy @ a bar or whatever & i like him, i'll just say what comes to mind. i guess im more like a guy picking up a chick... or so i've been told over and over again. although it works to my advantage most of the time, equally as much it'll really scare guys off. i used to be really demure and act coy, but over the years i prefer to just put it out there & let the guy sort it out. i always hated waiting for a guy to work his nerve up, i get better results when i take the initiative. i wouldn't say it makes me slutty, but if so... eh, im not really concerned.   
ladygrace
Female - 24 years old
LAS VEGAS, NV
United States
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