Crisis Averted

So, I guess I should tell you all the major drama that's been going on in my life this past week. Well, last friday I was talking to my boyfriend on AIM and just messing around and I said to him "I'm really ancy right now." And he replies "what are you antsy about?" And I laugh and say "nice way to subtely correct my spelling... well I'm not so ANTSY anymore." Then he says "whatever," and gives me the silent treatment. So I sit there a bit and then ask "so, you're just going to be quiet?" He says "why not? It seems like every time I say something I get in trouble. You make me feel like a retard all the time" etc. He says a few other things like "we've been over this before," but I can't quite remember exactly what he said. Anyway, after being silent for about 20 minutes he signs off and then doesn't talk to me for FOUR days. Now, when someone does that, it gets me thinking. If I make him feel like a retard all the time, why are we together? There's no point in having a relationship when someone feels like they're not treated well. So, basically, I said to myself, the next time I talk to him, it'll be up to him if we even stay together. When someone flips out like that over something so innocent and stupid, there's something wrong there. And getting four days to think about it, I was ready to back away if he didn't want to be together anymore. When someone makes such a harsh break like that, it tends to make one not desire to be close and intimate anymore. So, after four days of waiting around to give him this speech, we talk to eachother (last night). He says he misread it, that he can't tell when I am joking or not. Also, he's been pretty stressed with this project he has to get done (of course, when he flipped out on me, he wasn't at the point where he got really stressed, he admitted). Basically, I said I can't change my sense of humor, if it upsets him, just walk away. He said "just give me a sign that you're joking like a smiley." And I said I'm almost positive I gave him a smiley during that initial conversation. He said "I think you gave me one of these >:( which I never take as joking." And I very seriously said, "I'm always joking when I have every kind of smiley, it's when I don't use smilies that you know I'm serious, like now." So, basically everything was resolved after I told him, in sum, that if he filps out like that again and doesn't talk to me for days, I'm cashing in my chips and moving on. It's lack of communication that causes stupid s**t to go down, and I don't need that bulls**t in my life. If someone's unwilling to communicate with their partner, then I'm unwilling to be partners with them. Anyway, it's going alright now. I think it'll take a while for me to get really comfortable again because I will be second guessing myself (when I shouldn't have to) and I'll be super cautious so as to not piss him off (once again, though I shouldn't have to). So... who knows, hopefully it can get back to where it was BEFORE he flipped out, when I was thinking THE VERY DAY BEFORE "man, I really love Nick. He really makes me happy, and our relationship is so great together."